What I’ve Learned as a Mom: Real talk for Moms by a Mom

Becoming a mother is one of the most life changing thing in life. You are now not only caring for yourself but also for a little human. Sometimes multiple little humans. You learn things about you that you never knew you would. Becoming a mother is very rewarding, as children push you to become the best version of yourself. At least from my pov. That’s why I want to talk to you about what I’ve learned as a mom. Check out the three things I’ve learned below.

You will not have control over everything.

Being a mom, you want to protect your kids from a lot of different things and people. One thing I’ve learned is to let go of the need to control things that I have no control over. Trying to control everything and every aspect of their life will be tiring. You’ll also lose the joy out of everyday life because of worrying about what you can’t control.

We should focus on being present in the moment, guiding them the best way we can, and teaching them all that we know. Praying and having faith that God will lead them in the directions they need to go. The choices they make at the end of the day is all a part of their journey in life and learning. As I said earlier, we still need to be the best representation of what we want them to be, show, and guide them with what we know.

When you come into a situation you can’t control, immediately bring it before God. Pray over it and let Him do what He does best.

Pay Attention to What They Watch & Listen To

I’ve learned that you cannot stick your children in front of the TV all day and expect them to act a certain way. TV has an influence whether we believe it or not. Children can’t tell the difference between real and fake. Nor do they know what’s wrong and right. That is something that has to be taught to them. We have to realize that we are the teachers and if we stick them in front of the TV that will become their teacher.

A lot of the TV shows that are shown have expressed bad attitudes, silly ways to behave, and indoctrinate certain practices or beliefs that are not everyone believes. This is one of the reasons I say to pay attention.

The media is very smart and creative with the ways they introduce certain ideas and beliefs to kids. The way they have some characters talk is also negative and can be demeaning to self-worth. Take a listen for yourself the next time you put on your child’s favorite TV show. You might be surprised at what you hear.

Some people are going to say you’re doing too much. Some will say, “I let my kid have all the screen time they want.” I would say to let those people continue to raise their children how they would like. There are too many studies that are coming out saying screen time is affecting our children. If you want what’s best take a look at the research for yourself and you make a screen time schedule that fits your family.

Let Them Ask Why

One thing that used to get on my nerves and still does sometimes, is when they ask why. As I’ve grown into a woman and a mom, I learned that you don’t want to take away their confidence in asking questions. Asking questions is how we learn and how change can be made.

Now there is a time and a place that they should be allowed to ask why. When they are getting in trouble and you ask them to do something and then they ask why, that’s when I draw the line. I feel they need to be taught when and where it’s okay to ask why. Another example would be if there was an emergency and I asked them to do something quickly. I wouldn’t mind them asking why but just not in that moment. Depending on the emergency the time to answer a question may not be available.

If no one ever asked why we would all be robots following a crowd. We would not learn new things and rely on what other people say to get through life. If we didn’t ask why wouldn’t know how certain things work and operate. Very good to keep kids asking questions and being intuitive.

Conclusion

These are three things that I have learned, that allows me to get through motherhood a tad smoother. Not stressing myself even more over uncontrollable things. Learning to lean on God in hard moments and trusting that He has everyone’s best interest at heart. If I did not have God’s grace motherhood would feel impossible. We know that we can do all things through Christ. Philippians 4:13.

If you enjoyed this article, check out my other blog posts to help you through motherhood. Trust the Process, Let Go and Let God, and Finding Peace.

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